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So how awful IS awful ?
How terrible is TERRIBLE ?
It is helpful to put events into perspective. To ACTIVELY and FORCEFULLY expand our focus to see life realistically.
We often say something is "awful" and get a feeling like it is more than 100% Awful.
But how can that be ?
We say we "Can't Stand It !!!" .... but yet we do.
So lets take these facts and begin to MANAGE our thoughts and persepctives and as a result DIRECTLY MANAGE our feelings and behaviors as well !
We are not saying to "sugar-coat"...or even to minimize. There is real distress and discomfort in this world. A recognition of this Real Distress is important.
What we are saying is, while recognizing the real distress in situations,
to Also , AT THE SAME TIME, recognize very clearly and very factually,
where it lies in the spectrum of distress,
and that we can stand it.
Here is the tool ------- To REALize reality
Make a scale starting at 0 and going to 100
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1 ) First rate you existing situation
2) Secondly, ask yourself,
How Terrible is It?
Could it get worse?
It is really as frequent as it feels ?
How long will it really last ?
CAN I STAND THIS ?
3) Now for a bit of perspective ...
Is it as bad as a hurricane or earthquake?
Or say as a famine or war ?
4) and Finally for antedote ...
Is there nothing occuring at this same time that is good?
Is there nothing I can do to make something good happen ?
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It is in these simple and factual ways that we Realistically Manage and devlope a reality based persepctive on life.
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